Getting lost on your way to an important event is among the freakiest moment in your life. That event could be a new job, contract, or perhaps even your wedding day. But there are are times when you get lost simply because something went wrong in your life. It could be a loan engulfing you with interest till you drown in an ocean of indebtedness. It could be you have been out of job for quite some time that you feel like a student again subsisting on parental love. It could be worst, like a flood submerging your rice filed, fire razing to ashes your store or warehouse, an earthquake shattering your house, an accident, an incident or a tragedy that breaks up your world and turns you down into pieces.
The tendency is to give up, feel burnt out, depressed, or embark on a hating spree. That would be the saddest episode in your life. Why? It's a useless act of unnecessarily giving up and carelessly omitting every chance to pick up the pieces and moving on - of being resilient.
Picking up the pieces. Moving on. Resiliency. How? Follow these simple steps:
Begin with a prayer.
Be ready with your pen and paper or a 3" x 5" index card.
1) Make a reality check. Here, you must stop blaming yourself or anyone else. Acknowledge that something went wrong and you must be able to identify and accept that it does exist or may have existed and has wrought injury or damage. You must also be able to make a list of these damages requiring solutions or concerns needed to be addressed.
2) After have made that fearless list, opposite each item, indicate the least the could happen if you don't do anything o resolve such problem or address such concern. Then indicate the worst situation that you may be dragged into if indeed you don't lift a finger or even if you did, something went wrong again.
3) Prioritize the items listed by putting on top, the most important and with the worst consequence.
4) Indicate specifically the immediate solutions you have in mind that will basically address the problem or concern. Example: "pay my debt", "talk to my friend", "return the book", "rebuild my house", etc.
5) Having in your list the solution, the next thing to do is jot down the steps on how you will do it, when do you intend to do and finish it, and with whom will you do it.
By this time you have a plan of action. All you must do is polish it, fill in the details. Then execute the plan.
End with a prayer of thanksgiving, always.
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